A fantastic read that is written as a parable in order to teach management and leadership techniques that work! The seven principles shared in regards to managing productive people are to the point and can be easily integrated. Whether you are in charge of a team of people and/or wanting to develop new leaders within your company, this book can assist you in becoming a well respected leader that people will want to follow. The result will take you and your business to the next level. The Way of the Shepherd “reads quickly, hits hard and will stay with you.”
Devotion/Nature Spirits are calling you forward to reconnect with the great outdoors in quiet contemplation. “See how nature-trees, flowers, grass grows in silence; see the stars, the moon and the sun, how they move in silence…We need silence to be able to touch souls.” ~Mother Teresa
This months card is beckoning you to go outside. The natural World can offer you a mental and emotional clearing that is required from the day to day activities that we can become run down by. Allow the beauty of nature to reset your being when you become stuck, weary or upset.
Source: Ask Your Guides Oracle Cards by
It’s interesting to me how we as human being’s will do whatever it takes to avoid pain, and even more, endeavour to protect our kids from painful experiences. Our minds do a really good job of protecting us from probable dangers. We will forecast potential problems that could arise and make decisions based on a fear of what could happen. All the while not realizing the actual event we fear will more than likely never occur.
The problems lay in…
When we make decisions based on fear rather than love our road may become peppered with greater difficulties for all involved. For example, if you’re in a lifeless marriage and you feel stuck because you don’t want your kids to experience the pain of a divorce, I would ask you to notice where your choice to stay is coming from. Is a lie more loving than the truth?
In a powerful 2 min Youtube video by Gary Zukav (author/spiritual teacher) counsels a young fellow on “How to Make Tough Decisions with Love, Not Fear.” He suggests we distinguish what comes from fear and what comes from love. “What comes from love will feed you, will nurture you, will excite you. You’ll want to get up in the morning for it. And what comes from fear will dampen it. It’s your life and you need to decide…”
The answer is in making a choice based in love even if it means having a difficult conversation about the truth of what you’re experiencing with your partner. If you don’t let the other party know, you will continue to suffer alone and that’s not good for your emotional, mental, spiritual and physical health. Your unhappiness will be felt by your children, no matter how well you think you’re hiding it and they will never get to experience the absolute best of you!
What I’ve learnt…
In my feeble attempts to play creator, I have no doubt caused more pain and drama that could have been avoided by surrendering, instead of trying to control everything. What I noticed in myself and in my son over the years, is that strong character had been developed through adversity. Experiencing pain at an early age has made my son able to adapt to life and all it’s ongoing day to day challenges. He’s much more equipped then the child who has been bubble wrapped before going out the door. Sure there are challenges, but for the most part I have no major concerns that my son can’t handle life’s constant ebbs and flows. For me, adversity and pain have birthed an unyielding spirit, adaptability, empathy, compassion and most importantly, the ability to be authentic with those I love. Our problem is that we get so focused only on the pain, and forget to look at what we could become after the dust settles.
Look for the gold…
Yes, life can bring to us such gut wrenching moments. I believe strongly that there is always gold to be mined if we just take the time to look at things from a different vantage point. I urge you to look at experiences in the past where your mind had created fearful stories. Look at the truth of the situation. Did you make it through? Did you come out better?
I know for me, walking through the fire continues to bring me to higher ground, to places I would have never imagined possible. Isn’t it time to throw out the bubble wrap? who needs that stuff anyway…well, maybe recycle it 😉
If you’re looking for some great ideas on how to care for your mind, body and spirit this is the book for you. It’s laid out to provide daily healthful tips on how to nurture and nourish these three important areas over the course of an entire year. The book gathers information from traditions from modern to ancient wisdom (Eastern and Western systems). It’s informative, and provides suggestions throughout. One of my favourite things is it’s daily quote at the top of the page. The lay out is easy to read and the daily time commitment is under 3 minutes.
I witnessed a crow on the 1st of October and because it made its presence known to me, I chose to use the symbolism of this bird for our monthly intent. There are a few different ways to look at how this sign may assist you on your path. The one that resonated with me was the following; “The crow teaches us about change. Change is not to be feared; it is part of the natural course of things. The death or end of one thing signifies the birth or beginning of another. Crow teaches us about cycles, too. They are carrion birds, and help you remember that even in death there is something that feeds life. Death is not loss; Its transformation.”
Reflecting on the aforementioned, what changes have occurred in your life lately? Can you look to those changes and see the joy that will come? Are you at a stage where you hear an internal call in combination with a heavy heart knowing that something needs to change but your fears keep you from making that change?
If this is the case, I would encourage you to use meta-thinking in those moments that test your emotional and mental mindset. Meta-thinking is another way of going above and beyond. The crow has been known to build nests in tall trees which demonstrates how we can move through our own changes this month. Instead of simply seeing what’s in front of you in a one dimensional way, attempt to look at the situation from a different perspective in order to gain personal power. Perhaps, from a higher perspective such as looking at your situation with the eyes of spirit. What is the bigger picture here? I often use the affirmations like “the Universe is always conspiring in my favour and out of this situation only good will come.” As I’m sure you’re aware, the only way to make way for the new, is to be willing to let go of the old.
Great things are in store for you, I can feel it!
Source: Crow Symbolism
It saddens me to see people suffer from past experiences and old ideas (I’ve been there). These unresolved, unprocessed emotions often remain hidden and locked in the subconscious mind, and more importantly, locked inside the body. These “hungry ghosts” (as the Buddhists call being driven animalistically by intense emotions) make numerous attempts throughout one’s life to be heard, to be seen, to have their story told in order to find a respectful, and final, resting place.
Unresolved, unexpressed energy is unhealthy to carry…
If you think stuffing and playing David Copperfield with your feelings will make them disappear, think again. The more we try to stuff, deny, and repress these painful experiences, the more we become unconsciously controlled by their haunting memory. These unresolved emotions often contain a charged-like energy within them that can become lodged in certain parts of the body. Many eastern traditions, like yoga and acupuncture (and author Louise Hay, among many others) say these repressed emotions clog up the body’s energy channels and are the source and cause of many ailments and diseases. Why do we try to avoid them? Are we afraid we’d lose control and burst into pieces if we dared take a closer look?
Move towards greater peace of mind, health and balance
Many who play this game of denial have unhealthy habits or vices they reach for in times when they need a little bit of solace and peace. But that so called “peace” comes at a very high price. Manufactured peace is not real peace. It can also lead to addiction. That said, the only way to have true peace and lasting happiness is to face our ghosts and come to terms with them.
At the end of the day, we can all aim to release the old in order to make room for the new. As a profound act of self-love, it benefits not only ourselves, but also everyone around us. As we release more of our inner emotional pain, we get less caught up in the pain and drama of others, and thereby reduce the cycle of keeping the pain-train going in the world. By not propagating negativity, true peace can come forth.
Face the boogie man in the back of your mind!
My Mentor Rev. Patrick Cameron advises that one must look at something long enough so that its emotional charge can be transformed and no longer has power over us. I know what you may be thinking: “how long and difficult is that process going to be?” Yes, you may need to dig deep… and if you do, you will find the necessary courage and strength which can be found in us all. I assure you the boogie man in your mind isn’t as big as it claims to be. And when the light of love is shone upon it, it usually melts to nothing, like when the Wicked Witch of the West was splashed with water in The Wizard of Oz.
Success in resolving painful memories can be achieved by finding a supportive and safe environment with a trusted health professional. Furthermore, you may want to stack your efforts by also hiring a life coach and requesting the support of your family and friends while you go through the process of releasing.
Time to stare those hungry ghosts in the face…I wish you all the best.
“Reclaiming your power, creatively, brilliance, and dreams” that’s what this book is about. If you’ve never seen “The Shadow Effect” movie you can find it on youtube. It’s worth a watch. It’s speaks to the phenomenon of our shadows. These are the aspects we keep hidden from people that we wouldn’t want anyone to know about. We do this because we have a belief that if anyone knew about these qualities we wouldn’t receive acceptance and love. The problem with hiding our authentic nature is that we become out of alignment with our true self. In addition, we reject others that display these qualities.
Debbie explains that our so called weaknesses may in fact be hidden strengths. She offers examples of the gifts inside our dark side in order to reclaim our wholeness. This book has been spoken highly of by Deepak Chopra and Marianne Williamson.
This month’s intention brings to mind my current state of affairs. At this time I am half way through my Yoga Teachers Training with Empowered Yoga. This weekend I felt great, hopeful and motivated. The weekend previous, I felt frustrated and wondered how I was going to make it through. I am thankful for pushing through these times because anything worthwhile takes hard work, perseverance and dedication. The end result becomes that much sweeter.
For the month of November notice when you hit a wall, and feel like you can’t go any further. Give yourself a self-care retreat. Go outdoors and walk in nature. Connect and ground yourself down to the energy of the Earth. If needed–participate in some vigorous activity in order to break your negative or low state. Allow some space for a shift in perspective to take place because it will. Life demonstrates the notion of impermanence daily. Keeping a personal journal can show you this constant state of flux by tracking your moods, and the weather on a day to day basis. Whatever you do just don’t quit!
This year I’ve been introduced to the eight limbs of yoga. Now, for those who might think it means people who do yoga discover body parts they didn’t know they had, let me explain. The “eight limbs” are moral, ethical, and social guidelines to live by, both on and off the yoga mat. What you say, do and think affects your happiness and well being, so the ancient tradition of yoga has principles to help us live more consciously. Aligning yourself with these practices is said to bring about inner peace in body, mind and spirit.
8 Limbs of Yoga…
The following is a brief summary of the eight limbs of yoga, as well as the ones that I’ve been personally focusing on and integrating into my life for the last month:
1st Limb –Yama deals with our behaviour and how we conduct ourselves in everyday life.
2nd Limb – Niyama has to do with our chosen spiritual practice(s) and self discipline.
3rd Limb – Asana focuses on the practice of the actual physical yoga postures for wellbeing.
4th Limb – Pranayama is about bringing awareness and expansion of the life force through the breath.
5th Limb – Pratyahara is the withdrawal of the five senses in order to experience our inner world.
6th Limb – Dharana is concentration/focus in order to cut through the distracted mind, and bring about more calm and centeredness.
7th Limb – Dhyana is meditation. Dhyana helps to dissolve the sense of separation with the Divine, which results in a sense of oneness and deep peace.
8th Limb – Samadhi is the supreme state. A state of consciousness where we move beyond time, space, and form.
Currently, I’m practicing limbs, 2, 4 and 7…
For limb 2, I attend the Centre for Spiritual Living in Edmonton on Sunday mornings. This acts as a weekly discipline, and good reminder of my spiritual practices. I apply limb 4 by reminding myself daily to breathe deeply and mindfully, to find little pauses for awareness in the day. Lastly, I meditate on a nightly basis for 10-20 minutes, to relax the mind from the day, which is limb 7.
These small acts help me to better “land” in my body and become more present to the moment. If you’d like more harmony and balance in your life, I would suggest you explore the 8 limbs of yoga more deeply, and work on slowly integrating them into your own life.
Christine Arylo is a self love guru on a mission with assisting individuals in becoming their own best friend. I held a Self-Discovery Group around this book and noticed how great a need there is for this concept. What you’ll find are ideas on how to facilitate self love and nurturing in your own life.
Note, there are many different facets or branches to self love. The author illustrates this concept through the self love tree which I found to be my biggest take away. Every branch represents an aspect of self love whether it be the branch of expression, honour & respect, pleasure and esteem etc. We are called to nurture each branch in order for the roots of our self love tree to remain strong and balanced. To this end we are less likely to be impacted by negative forces outside our control.
This little book offers many activities and self rating exercises to gauge where you’re at personally in order to make the necessary changes to grow self love.